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My Drag Way Path to Divorce or Seperation?

Always in motion but this means no comotion.

 

Where to begin?  1986?  When I first felt I had fallen for my husband?  Our dating til 1993?  A marriage on the rocks?  A foundation I now realize was lacking but now understand was not on the sand as a wiseman builds his house?  The birth of my son that brought it all home?

I worked at the hospital where my husband did.  I was an Intern Pharmacy Student.   He was a Charge Pharmacist on the sixth floor. Seven years older, made him seem so stable, handsome, and ideal.

Our dating started after my work there had stopped.  I quit.  The dates continued.  Having work in common gave us plenty to talk about and discuss.

Assumptions are the killers.  A person goes to church every Sunday.  This doesn't mean he/she is perfect.  It doesn't make them better than you.  It may mean they try harder or they are only going through the motions.  Please don't quit going to church because of my comment.   I mention this because it was a trait I admired in my current husband.

If a person has a bunch of rules about when this are that can take place, how things must go and has little tolerance; RUN!!!  This only means as it appears to you.  For your perceptions are the only things you have to decide what you want in life, should run away from and embrass if you choose.

Disagreements are the norm.  However, each of you have a different life.  This is especially true if you both work. Therefore these little syptoms go ignored like many with the illness of cancer.  By the time you realize the differences are of concern; like cancer it is highly likely it could be terminal.

A child is born. The husband actually has the audacity to ask if it his child.  My gosh.  There has never been an indication of cheating; even til this day. In my case a special needs child with Autism, ADD, Auditory Processing Disorder, Ocular Motor Disfunction, Learning Disabilities and more on and on.  He is a child that is loved and wanted.  One parent is proactive and the other chooses to hide a head in the sand.  One person starts talking with ultimatums.

"You took him to the park?" Asks the husband.  "You might have had a heart attack!"

One one of the few times out after the birth of the child, a mother-in-law calls.  She asks the sister of the mom that is taking care of the child,"You took him to the park? What if he skins his knee?" The normal sister perks up and answers quickly right back, "He will survive like all the rest of the children in this world!"

Fights continue about how to care for the child.  At six months he is in the hospital.  The husband blames the wife.  Why did you take him to Baby Jymboree?  Your family is always kissing on him.  You don't wash your hands well enough.

Did this have anything to do with his special needs?  Did inducing labor a bit early cause it?  Is it your families genes?  Or, the other side?

As a mother one does the best she can.  The research to help her son leads down a dark realization that all the extra help needed is not always covered or seldom is, by health insurance.  The husband says this is unnecessary.  The mother continues and at least gets her child in preschool early.

Do you know what "Munchausen Syndrome By Proxy," is? Here is a definition, "Munchausen syndrome by proxy is a mental illness and a form of child abuse. The caretaker of a child, usually a mother, either makes up fake symptoms or causes real symptoms to make it look like the chld is sick." The husband says the wife has this.  He says she wants attention for what is wrong with the child?

Everything done by the wife seems to be wrong.  Arguments go on and on.  More details are not needed.  This is the parenting drama until November 25th, 2014.  While in a counseling session with my son's counselor and my husband, it is clear to me.  This will never end.  My son is distressed by his parents.  A divorce or seperation will mean clear concise rules for him.  This will mean no more back and forth between the parents.

Part of this is a child working two parents against another.  Playing parents against one another is something my husband says special needs kids don't do.  I know different.  The other part that is bad is listening to parents go back and forth round-n-round where the carousel will never stop.

This is the "Drag Way to my Divorce or Seperation."  I plan to execute a leave January 2015.  The trial will go through March.  I am leaning toward getting back together to be a one in a million shot.

Please feel free to comment and share your trials with me.  They may help me.

Too much damage done?  My son will be in his last semester  of high school.

My son is important to me but there is a saying that taking care of one's self is primary so caring for others can still happen.

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This is a short post.  If you want to see US Government Reports provided by your tax dollars go the facebook below......Read examples of posts on that page too. 

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To see links to a number of reports like:

Evidence-based Practice Center Systematic Review Protocol
Project Title: Autism Spectrum Disorder—An Update

Executive Summary – Jul. 1, 2014
Safety of Vaccines Used for Routine Immunization in the United States

Evidence-based Practice Center

Technical Brief Protocol

Project Title:

Genetic Testing for Developmental and Intellectual Disabilities

Interventions for Adolescents and Young
Adults With Autism Spectrum

Comparative Effectiveness of Therapies for Children With Autism
Medicines for Treating Mental
Health Conditions
A Review of the Research for Adults and Caregivers

Antipsychotic Medicines for
Children and Teens
A Review of the Research for Parents

Therapies for Children With
Autism Spectrum Disorder
A Review of the Research for Parents and Caregivers

*A SEARCH AT THE AGENCY FOR HEALTHCARE RESEARCH AND QUALITY .....WITH REPORTS AVAILABLE ON AUTISM...

ECTACenter.org : The Early Childhood Technical Assistance Center : Improving Systems, Practices...

Web address for ECTA Center(The Early Childhood Technical Assistance Center: Improving Systems PRACTICES Therapies for Children with Autism Spectrum Disorders

Overview of National Autism Center's Best Practice ... a power point presentation from Kent

a guide to providing appropriate
interventions to students with
autism spectrum disorders

a guide to providing appropriate
interventions to students with
autism spectrum disorders

Autism Spectrum Disorders:
Guide to Evidence-based Interventions
Missouri Autism Guidelines Initiative 2012

SKILL COMPETENCIES FOR PROFESSIONALS AND DIRECT SUPPORT STAFF IN VIRGINIA SUPPORTING
ADOLESCENTS AND ADULTS WITH AUTISM
DEVELOPED BY THE VIRGINIA AUTISM COUNCIL

http://www.vcuautismcenter.org/resources/summaries/EBP.cfm…
**********EVIDENCE BASES PRACTICES ON SOCIAL SKILLS 2010

http://www.autismtrainingsolutions.com/resources

http://www.autisminternetmodules.org/

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Autism under reported in Minorities?

Please check out this article @
http://www.psychiatryadvisor.com/autism-likely-underreported-in-minority-children/article/381985/?DCMP=EMC-PA_Update&CPN=&spMailingID=9886306&spUserID=ODE4MzExMzE2ODUS1&spJobID=420857923&spReportId=NDIwODU3OTIzS0

The article says autism under reported in blacks and Hispanics. I didn't see a state to state comarision.

It does make me wonder about the l: 88 and l:53. Is autism under reported? too Broad a category to get sufficiant data?

I propose More specific Spectrum varieties, those that Co occur with oTher issues in what%'S and more be defined better so research advan cement can happen faster,

Too many stabs at a vague definition with so many variables decreases the chance of real progress. specifics can push research forward light years.

Also, we need to decrease underserved populations. This is for humanity and Science, Variables by race must be addressed fer proper treatment and the Scientific light that Can be shinned on Autism in general.

These are My opinions. Also, as a scientist, Ikrow defining the issues and plodding forward in a logical, methodical order provide the best outcomes when attacking problems that need to be solved.

Autism and all disorders teach us humanity should realize the luxury of racism is outdated and wrong.