Showing posts with label Christ. Show all posts
Showing posts with label Christ. Show all posts

Thursday, September 24, 2015

Helping Youth Have a Faith of Their Own

"This article is reprented by permission from Leading Ideas, a free e-newsletter from the Lewis Center for Church Leadership of Wesley Theological Seminary and available at Lewis Center for Church Leadership"
Here is the site for the orginal article Helping Youth Have a Faith of Their Own. Originally published Feb. 8, 2012.

Helping Youth Have a Faith of Their Own
The fact that youth participate in church less as they get older and often are not present in church as young adults can lead church leaders to assume they lack religious interest. A new book growing out of the National Study of Youth and Religion challenges that assumption. Sociologists Lisa Pearce and Melinda Lundquist Denton found that older teens and young adults see great significance in religion though not always in institutional forms of religious life.
In their book A Faith of Their Own: Stability and Change in the Religiosity of America’s Adolescents (Oxford University Press, 2011), the authors follow up with 2,530 young people, age 16 to 21, surveyed about their faith and religious practices at two points in time. The authors identified five types of religious identity among these young persons.
Abiders (20 percent). These are the adolescents with the highest levels of religious interest and practice. They not only believe in God; they pray regularly, attend services, volunteer, and are most likely to say their religion is the only true faith.
Adapters (20 percent). This group shows high levels of personal religiosity. But compared to the Abiders, they are more accepting of other people’s faiths and attend religious services more sporadically. The Adapters are most likely of all the groups to help others in need.
Assenters (31 percent). These teens say they believe in God, but they are minimally engaged with their faith. Religion is tangential to other aspects of their lives.
Avoiders (24 percent). They believe in God but do not engage in any religious practice. Their God is a distant one, and they often do not name a religious affiliation.
Atheists (5 percent). They do not believe in God and do not attend services.
Meaning for Congregations
What might this mean for congregations wanting to be sensitive to the faith perspectives of youth? We know that participation in formal religious services means little to many youth. They do not necessarily see themselves as less religious because they attend worship less often. The church is often not their primary community of meaning during these years.  
The writers suggest that congregations can support youth as they refine their religious identity with an approach called “scaffolding.” Scaffolding creates a context in which youth can participate at a level just beyond where they are currently. Instead of asking youth to go where they are not ready to go, they are helped to grow from where they are. Hallmarks of all such efforts must be honesty and acknowledgement of the role of doubt in faith.
All people have distinctive issues and needs at various life stages. One lesson from this research is the importance of supporting youth in appropriate ways during these critical years.
Lovett H. Weems, Jr.

Saturday, December 27, 2014

“I DID NOTHING WRONG!”

Divorce I declare on November 25th of this year.
“If you stay I will comply!” you said.
Will my age be 95 when this I see and hear?
“I did nothing wrong!” I get all this junk from your head.
Reasonable I planned to be.
Setting some words in pencil.
Even when inside I hadn’t a “Yippee.”
Glad these words were not set in stencil.
One day a week exercise with an Fitness Instructor.
Find a church and attend.
Two times a month on Sundays I direct.
Wednesday I penned.
Date night,
Family night, time,
Couples therapy I write.
Family counseling I chime.
Tanner, a prime consideration.
We each have our own page.
While we need to tune to the same station.
Seems to me I parent around your rages.
Judge me plenty in this marriage.
If you are a Christian and fill in plenty of blanks.
Can we find a carriage,
To carry us where God ranks and we give thanks?
Whose is this baby?
Was your reply to my telling you of my pregnancy.
What does that imply to me maybe?
Great way to start the gestation.
Your way or the highway,
Has been how it seems
Our marriage a flyby,
My behavior says to you. Blowing to smithereens.
I am not lily white.
Marriage takes two.
Perfection is a quest that people must hold.  Allright I did bite.
After a bit, I bet we both blew.
Attention you want.
Tis not Tanner you are for him to prosper.
Only wanting to flaunt.
Called it Munchausen Syndrome by Proxy and like a cosper.
No to church choir.
Hated my enrolling in swimming, karate and many other sports.
Attention you said I wished to acquire.
Forbid me to run for PTA President, threatening me for some reason you’d report.
The house was always yours in title.
Shuffling aside the promise to buy a new house once married.
I didn’t do this or that which was vital.
How I felt as if I’d been buried.
When will you be home?
You were late.
Where is my tomb?
Was I mistake but your love appeared as if hate.
Plenty on our plate, for sure,
We must do,
In finding a cure,
After saying “I do!”
Already, you have stated the fitness instructor you aren’t ready for.
I, in good faith, agreed to remain for three months and try.
Let us remember it isn’t war.
Hope and faith should keep us from cries and saying bye.
Your barter was to walk the dog,
With me two or three times a week,
For 15 minutes to 30 minutes, A fog
Was not your state of mind or your critique.
One day you proclaim,
If it is going to be like this,
We won’t be part of the marriage game.
I pray we can find bliss.
You think I keep bringing up the past,
Nagging without forgiving.
However, there is a contrast.
Purposely, getting at anger thrown out isn’t how I will be living.
I asked you to write down your wants and desires.
Of all things I haven’t forgotten God first is a must.
We must put out many fires while relighting a major fire.
A wind gust of marriage thrust is needed that we trust.
Remember, telling me I couldn’t take Tanner
By himself on a vacation.
One big banner,
Is that I can do this type of migration.
Our marriage has lots of problems.
I promise to convey,
My love and earnest,
Struggle to succeed.
God states anything is possible
Through Christ.
Thinking we agree on most of the doctrinal,
Principles from the bible, we must pay the price.
Forgetting and forgiving,
Yes, I concur,
Without misgivings.
If you and I finally understand each other without it being a blur.
God, with faith,
We pray and ask,
To hear what you saith.
Vowing to endure any task.

Saturday, December 7, 2013

Christmas My Way This Year.

 My Christmas This Year My</strong> Way:</em> I have chosen to do Christmas my way this year.  Drawing names and getting a list is no fun. I like to try and find out what a person wants by the old fashioned way; knowing them and talking to people that know them.  Disappointing Christmas gifts when people complain have me really tired of going to a lot of trouble.

**********We do the dutiful prayer at Christmas meal but how many donate to anything at Christmas?  Remember why we celebrate Christ's birth at Christmas?  We never mention it when it is time to open gifts.  The spirit of Christmas has almost died for me.

Told to buy gifts for a nephew because he needs them.  The same person didn't want to buy for a sister-in-law that is in a group home for those that are challenged.  I mean Christmas has become a hard time for me to enjoy.

My husband may have a point.  I miscarried 16 years ago about Oct. or so.  I buried the memory.  Could I have blamed God? I don't know.  But, still people really forget the reason Christmas is celebrated.  I miss my dad so much.  Another person I miss is a lady that lived across the street from us when I was growing up.  She always had the best candy.  Homemade fudge and every kind of candy you can imagine.  All in a wonderful tin with a Christmas picture. Sometimes she even refilled it for us. I worked at a grocery store in high school. I always bought her a small decorated Christmas tree in a pot.  I continued that tradition for some time.  When she died a part of Christmas died with Mrs. Kirsch.

This year I have decided not to draw names.  However, I am making gifts.  People said I thought you weren't doing gifts this year.  I said I am not drawing names.  However, I am making gifts.  Did you see the picture of the sub?   I made a nurse's hat for my sister- in-law some time ago.  A microscope kleenex box cover was a gift for my sister that is a cytotechnologist. My other brother the CPA got a nameplate.  If someone out there can think of a different thing to make this CPA brother let me know.  The sub you see at the start is for my brother that retired from the navy as a Lt. Comm; a nuclear engineer, he served on Boomers and Fast Attack subs.

I donated anonymously $100 cash to be given as cash to a family. Now I know an Executive Director that can pick a family that won't blow it.  I wish I could give more but have other charities to give. Why cash you may ask?  Well after 15 years of working at Skyline Urban Ministries, a food pantry; I know some hate to feel less than human.  I heard at Skyline some talk about wanting to be able to give cash to their children for Christmas.  Giving to others makes it feel more like Christmas.  My family seems to have all they need.  I told my friend to tell the family it was from God.  Really all are things are from God.  At least I believe this.

I am buying for the kids.  I believe that Christmas should be about the kids.  I want to see them open their gifts and tear into them. If our house is the place to be. I will do what I want to this year. I let things eat at me.  I want to see one girl that loves to open gifts with a zest get at them. I let everyone else run my house at Christmas; well not this year. I will do what I want.  Opening presents first. Then we will eat.  Having fun.  Back up. We will talk about what Christmas means.  Homemade gifts will be explained for the adults.  Return policy for amazon is easy. This is one reason I shopped there. If people complain too much next year may have lumps of coals in their socks for real.

I may want to tell them about how Christmas was great when dad was alive.  Why it was better.  What Mrs. Kirsch meant and what she brought to Christmas.  Christmas shouldn't be a bad time of year. I let it get out of control by giving my power away. I let selfish people steal the good away from Christ's time.

This year will be different. Christ will be remembered.  Gifts will be special.  I will not let people run over me in my own home. My power is being taken back.

I encourage people that feel like me to look at what has caused them to dread Christmas.  Then think what would make it special for them.   I am doing it and I am enjoying it.  I am sending Christmas Cards that don't look nothing like Christmas Cards. They support a local young autistic group called Beesknees'.  They make cards, calendars and more.  I am choosing to have fun. If others don't like how I am doing Christmas, then they can go elsewhere.